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I'm on that train, that train that has nowhere to go, but always has a destination.

I never know where I'm going, but I always know when I get there.

Yeah, that train.... disassociating so that I can associate, letting go, so that I can take hold.

Hold me down,

Hold me down,

when I'm not around.

When I'm caught up and bound, hold me down.

When I'm without a crown, hold me down.

Hold me down when love cannot be found.

Hold me down,

Hold me down,

when I'm unwound.

When I'm painted up like a clown, hold me down.

When I'm far from sacred ground, hold me down.

Hold me down when my screams do not make a sound.

Hold me…

Time Lost in and out of love

Time lost trying to heal those who don’t want to be healed

Time lost chasing someone else’s dream

Time lost being selfish

Time lost  waiting for some big moment

Time lost being afraid

Time lost keeping score

Time lost away from the beach

Time lost counting time

The Hustler:

-         General Characteristics – He comes at you with plenty of swag. The kind of swag you only get from walking outside of the lines. Lots of guys who’ve been in prison, change their ways when they get out, but we’re not talking about those guys. We’re referring here to guys still in the game. I know the suits on Madison Avenue have you convinced that the Hustler is what you want in a man, but really? No, I mean really? (By the way, Tupac attended Julliard…

Free Agent:

-         General Characteristics – He keeps it light and honest.  If you connect, you connect. No big deal. He doesn’t care who you date when he’s not around. In fact, he’s so secure; he “might” even hook you up with one of his more marriage minded friends, if you tire of him.  But he’s not planning to ever marry. The whole concept is foreign to him. On the other hand, he’ll “date” all kinds of women. Big, Tall, Short, Small, he loves them all. He doesn’t…

Exchange Student:

-         General Characteristics – Fine, sexy, smart and looking for a sponsor, a fact which they will let you know up front. They don’t’ care if you’re married, involved or single, as long as you pay their bills. Societal norms seem outdated to them. Their perspective is similar to the Free Agent (see field guide to men). She’s all about keeping things drama free and fun. She’s doesn’t want to marry you and she won’t ask you for anything. Being with her…

Goddess:

-         General Characteristics – Gorgeous and smart, they don’t need a man to support them. However, their mates are typically men who are very good at what they do, be it a doctor, a math teacher or whatever. They appreciate and can readily identify excellence in others.

-         Found in – Could be anywhere, but you know within five minutes of meeting one, that they are indeed the real thing.  

-         Relations after Marriage – They know it takes work…

Sometimes in life the hardest thing to do, is to do nothing... meaning, that life has taught me that you can't fix everything or everybody. Don't like it, but it's not meant for me to like, for I am evolving too.

The walls are coming down.

The spat between Reverend Sharpton and Dr. Cornel West, while disappointing may be

indicative of a bigger change taking place. Most of us question if we are

really in a post-racial America simply because we now have an African-American

president. If only that were so, I would certainly welcome it.  However, I don’t think we can dismiss changes

taking place around us and within us.

The public airing of laundry between the good rev and…

Allow Love
 
Allow Love to keep your secrets
Allow Love to reveal everything
 
Allow Love to live each day like it was the last
Allow Love to live each day like it was the first
 
Allow Love sometimes to hurt
Allow Love some time to heal
 
Allow Love to love you
Allow Love to love others
 
Allow Love to be
 
My novel, To Wrestle With Darkness, is on sale now for $2.99 on Amazon.com

Time is an illusion,

created by the Infinite,

so that we the finite,

might have relevance.

There was no was,

anymore than there is a then.

We have only the now,

and the testimony of our five senses

....and sometimes they're deceived

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to purchase the book To Wrestle With Darkness on sale…

Do you know people who are never happy? They complain about everything, even to the point that if they won the lottery, they’d cry about paying the taxes. So, what does this have to do with dating? Well, some people behave this way in their relationships too. Nothing is ever good enough, and they are always looking for the exit.  I call it Relational A.D.D.

The truth of the matter is that some folks are just in love with being in love.  And even more unfortunate, is that this phrase…

    Here is the ugly truth of the matter; most of what you read about finding a mate is largely crap that some writer slung against the wall, hoping something sticks.  And while many of their suggestions are helpful, they often ignore the elephant in the room.  Equating finding a mate to balancing a budget, these actions are like deciding you're going to cut Starbucks out of your diet.  Sure, that will save you at least $60 a month and taking your lunch could save you another $120 to $150 a…

 Be Aware, very aware.  Facebook is not free. You will not get a bill, nor will it affect your credit rating, and yet it may very well cost you everything you hold dear.

Sure we all know about the bigamist who posted his…

PSA: Meaning, put the Gameboy down and pay attention.

1) Sure you can turn a woman of questionable virtue into a housewife, same as you can push a big heavy-azz rock up a hill, but why? Then again, people do all kinds of stuff these days just to get on TV (Maury, Cheaters, etc...). Go for it!

2) No approach works on every woman, but there is an approach for every woman.

3) Don't mistake Circumstance for Game. Meaning, anyone can sell water in a desert.

4)…

PSA: Print and post this in your car on the back side of your sun visor.

1) How he treats others is how he will someday treat you.

2) The secret lies not in what you attract, but rather in what you let in.

3) Just because he likes you, doesn't mean he's trying to get with you

    and just because he's trying to get with you, doesn't mean he likes you.…

Focus is the refinement of Then

into the here and now.

It is simple,

and yet seldom mastered.

Tomorrow is an untamed and unknown giant

wreaking havoc on today, but only as we allow it.

Our actions today, are the chains which bind tomorrow.

Thus place your heart in the future,

but your eyes on the present,

and your worries in the past.

Focus.

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Relax, don't force it.

Let it come to you.

Be patient, yet persistent.

Be open.

Flow.

Allow the current to carry you along in a waking dream,

where your perspective is pliable and your conclusions unformed.

In this alternative reality, removed from your five senses, everything is possible.

Only in this void can you feel the true weight of things.

What would you give to face the darkness?

What would you give to avoid it?

Or would you embrace it?

The first requires at least an ounce of faith,

the second, a shortage thereof,

and the third, a void of faith beyond measure